情緒智商的需要 – 第一部分
Need for Emotional Intelligence – Part 1
Awakening does not necessitate healing ~ Avalon
Emotions are intelligent; they are our feeling based response to life. Emotions are the energetic dimension of deeper thought. They hold more energy, more information, more transformational potential. Without emotion, we lose a vital tool in our external navigation in the world. Without emotion, we cannot derive value or meaning from our psychological reality. Without emotion, we would be like machines only processing streams of information.
Fear can serve our physical survival; anger can serve our learning of boundaries; grief can support our process of letting go; regret can encourage us to take new decisions; loss can help us learn appreciation. Emotions are a compass if we can acknowledge, feel, listen and learn from them. Emotion is the energetic component of an insight, thus the rising of emotion and the growth of our intelligence is parallel.
Emotion is not really an issue for us; it is negative and painful aspect of emotion that is an issue. What we misunderstand however is that pain is a sign of imbalance, and is therefore an important pointer. Pain is an insight trying to deliver us into a new direction. Negative emotion can be useful to us if we do not dwell in it, but rather use it to direct us out of our pain and misunderstandings. Emotional pain can be thanked, as it is often our greatest drive to create life changes. If enough pain is present, we are rapidly motivated to learn our lessons and crossover necessary thresholds of learning.
Link Between Emotional Pain and Mental Negativity
Our thoughts and emotions are inter-connected; they each give rise to the other. We create thoughts according to the emotional state we are in, and emotions are created from the thoughts we hold. Our negativity has a source and reason. Negativity comes from unresolved pain. It is a condition of repression, unawareness of self, neglected self-inquiry, and lack of emotional resolve. If we do not heal our pains at the root, we cannot fully clear our negativity.
No one wants to be a negative person, we are painfully aware of it when we are. But there is something deeply compelling us from the inside to release our pain. Through our words, attitude and actions, we are releasing the toxic buildup inside. We are projecting our pain outward through our negativity. We are unconsciously trying to gain witnesses, attention, tenderness and/or healing through the showing of our pain.
Renouncing Pain and Negativity ~ Does it work?
How does one dissolve pain?
Is it enough to just renounce our negativity?
Is focusing on positivity enough not to waiver?
There are many strategies for transforming ourselves but not all strategies are equal. Each strategy is differentiated by its depth of intervention, holistic reach, effectiveness and ability to sustain long-term change.
Some schools of thought suggest that renouncing negativity is possible because negativity is fundamentally unreal. They suggest that since only the purity of our higher nature and our goodness is real, that our higher nature can supplant our unreal lower nature. This viewpoint, however, overlooks what the perceiver holds as real. Even though thoughts and emotions are transient and changing in nature, it does not mean they are insubstantial or unreal. They only hold a lower place within the spectrum of self-experience, particularly compared to abidance in one’s higher nature.
If the perceiver is convinced of the reality of his emotions and is thus trapped in their energetic hold, a higher perspective will not necessarily (1) counteract the gravity of his emotional world, or (2) shift him into a state of emotional understanding and resolve. Basically, reality is relative. What the perceiver holds as real is real; his belief creates his experience. If the perceiver changes his mind and decides indeed emotions are unreal, while it may loosen the grip of his charges, it still will not clear them.
To only sit in your meditative light and renounce disturbing emotion and thought is a form of repression and self-denial. One can abide in a heightened state and remain oblivious to one’s human flaws. One can grow as a soul, expand energetically, and yet remain stagnated in the development of one’s character. A troubled mind can still be touched by the connectivity and oneness of all life. One can still enjoy and love the awesome beauty of nature, feeling it is a part of one’s own self, and yet still be riddled with painful feelings of self-hatred. Such dichotomous inner states are common.
One can become expert at re-direction, but a mere loss of focus will direct one back towards the unpleasant complex web of internal knots. A temporary high from drugs or alcohol is comparable. It produces an altered state and offers short-term reprieve from one’s baseline state, however fundamental issues remained unresolved. Basically, renunciation does not really work, whereas facing oneself however does.
The light of our soul can partially but not completely heal the pain of the human heart. It is like shining bright sunlight on a person who has just lost their loved one. The sunlight is a beautiful grace and comfort but it cannot fully reach into the pain in one’s core. While the light of one’s soul is powerful, emotional pain still belongs to the realm of the human self. As such, the light of the soul can only penetrate the complexity of our psyche, emotional patterning and subconscious construct to a limited degree. The soul is more like a divine friend who supports the processing required at the base level of our human self. The human must still squarely meet his humanness.
For this reason, many meditators who try to transcend their emotional pain and psychological issues by just transcending them through a higher state of consciousness, tend to always fall back. Unfortunately, I have never observed an exception no matter how enlightened a being is. They are always divided between two realities, the exalted nature of their spiritual self and the wounding still present in their human self. Basically, awakening does not necessitate healing. Awakening only shines a light on one’s condition, amplifying one’s true state. While an awakened soul can positively impact the healing process, the healing process cannot fully rely on the soul to complete it. The soul offers peaceful refuge outside of the pain body, and a heightened perspective to see the entire matter in a wider context. Beyond this however, the human still has to undergo the necessary healing work.