情緒智商的需要 – 第一部分

情緒是很聰明的；它是我們回應生活覺受的基礎。情緒比思想來自於我們存在更深之處。它有更多的能量、更多的訊息、更多的轉化性潛能。如果沒有情緒，我們就失去了在世界上外在導航的重要工具。如果沒有情緒，我們就不能從心理現實中得到價值和意義。如果沒有情緒，我們就會像機械般，只處理資訊的流。

恐懼有助於我們的實際生存；憤怒有助於我們​​學習界線；悲痛可以支持我們放下的過程；懊悔可以鼓勵我們採取新的決定；失去可以幫助我們學習珍惜。如果我們可以認出、感受、傾聽，並從中學習，情緒是一個指南針。情緒是洞見充滿活力的組成部分，因此，情緒的浮現和我們智慧的成長是並行的。

情緒對我們而言並不真的是問題，是負面情緒以及它所帶來的傷痛才是問題。但我們所誤解的是，傷痛是不平衡的跡象，因此是一個重要的指示。傷痛試圖給予我們洞見，以在新的方向移動。如果我們沒有沈溺在其中，而是用它來指導我們脫離痛苦和誤解，負面情緒對我們是有用的。情緒傷痛是可以被感謝的，因為它往往是我們創造生活改變最大的驅動力。如果有足夠的傷痛被呈現，我們就會迅速主動的學習我們的課題，和跨越必要的學習門檻。

情緒痛苦和心智負面之間

我們的思想和情緒是相互連接的；它們各自產生另一個。我們根據自己的情緒狀態創造思想，而情緒也是從我們的思想產生的。我們的負面性有一個來源和原因，負面性來自於未化解的傷痛。這是壓抑的情況、自我的無覺知、忽視自我探索，以及缺乏情緒的解決。如果我們沒有從根源療癒自己的傷痛，我們就不能完全清除自己的負面性。

沒有人想成為一個負面的人，當我們是這樣子時，我們痛苦的意識到這一點。但有個東西深深的迫使我們從內在釋放我們的傷痛。透過我們的言語、態度、行為，我們釋放內在的毒性物質。我們透過自己的負面性，向外投射我們的傷痛。我們無意識的試圖透過表現我們的傷痛，得到被看見、注意，溫柔及/或療癒。

放掉傷痛和負面性〜這有效嗎？

一個人如何化解痛苦？
只是放掉我們的負面性是足夠的嗎？
專注於正面性足以不用放掉負面性嗎？

有許多轉化自己的策略，但不是所有的策略都是相等的。他們在干預的深度、觸及的全面性，效果和維持長期改變的能力上，是不同的。

有些學派認為放掉負面性是可能的，因為負面性基本上是不真實的，而既然只有我們更高本性的純淨和善良是真實的，我們的更高本性就可以取代我們的較低本性。這種觀點忽視了一個人所視為真實的。儘管思想和情緒是短暫的，本質上是變化的，但這並不意味著他們是單薄的或不真實的，他們只是在自我經驗的頻譜內在較低的位置，尤其相對於一個人較高的本性。

如果一個覺知者相信自己情緒的現實，並因此被困在他們保持的能量中，較高的觀點不一定會（1）抵消他情緒世界的重力，或（2）將他轉移到情緒瞭解與解決的狀態。基本上，真實是相對的。一個人認為是真實的就是真實的；他的信念創造了他的經驗。如果一個人改變了他的想法，並決定情緒是不真實的，雖然可以放鬆他對於傷痛的緊握，這仍然不會清除傷痛。

只坐在靜心的光之中，放棄令人不安的情緒和思想，是一種形式的壓抑和自我否定。一個人可以在提高的狀態中，繼續無視於人性的缺陷。以靈魂成長，在能量上擴展，但性格的發展仍然停滯不前。煩擾的頭腦仍然可以被萬物的連結與合一所碰觸。一個人仍然可以享受和熱愛大自然令人敬畏的美，感覺大自然是自己的一部分，但仍被自我憎恨的痛苦感覺所困住。這種分歧的內在狀態是常見的。

我們可以成為重新導向的專家，但只要一失去專注，就會將一個人導向內在難題的不愉快錯綜複雜的網。這可以與從毒品或酒精暫時的高峰相比，它產生轉化的狀態，並從一個人基礎的狀態提供短暫的慰藉，但根本問題仍未得到解決。基本上，放掉傷痛並不真正有效；而面對自己是有效的。

靈魂可以療癒人性嗎？

我們的靈魂之光可以部分的，但不能完全的療癒人心的傷痛。這就像明亮的陽光照耀著剛剛失去自己心愛的人的人。陽光是個美麗的恩典，讓人感到舒適，但它不能完全觸及一個人核心的傷痛。雖然一個人靈魂之光是強大的，情緒傷痛仍屬於人類自我的領域。因此，靈魂之光只能穿透我們的心靈，情緒模式和無意識構成到有限的程度。靈魂更像是一個神聖的朋友，支持我們人類自我的基礎層面所需的處理。但人類仍然必須正視他的人性。

出於這個原因，許多試圖透過更高的意識狀態，來超越自己的情緒痛苦和心理問題的靜心者往往會掉下來。不幸的是，我從來沒有觀察過一個例外，無論那個人有多麼開悟。他們總是被兩個現實分隔-他們心靈自我的崇高性，和仍然在他們人類自我的傷痛。基本上，覺醒並不必然帶來療癒。覺醒只會將光照耀在一個人的情況，放大一個人的真實狀態。雖然覺醒的靈魂可以正面的影響療癒過程，但療癒過程並不能完全依靠靈魂來完成它。靈魂提供傷痛體之外的寧靜庇護，和以更高的觀點，更廣的範圍，來看整個事情。然而，超出了這個，人類仍然需要經歷必要的療癒工作。

~ Avalon

Need for Emotional Intelligence – Part 1

Awakening does not necessitate healing ~ Avalon

Emotions are intelligent; they are our feeling based response to life. Emotions are the energetic dimension of deeper thought. They hold more energy, more information, more transformational potential. Without emotion, we lose a vital tool in our external navigation in the world. Without emotion, we cannot derive value or meaning from our psychological reality. Without emotion, we would be like machines only processing streams of information.

Fear can serve our physical survival; anger can serve our learning of boundaries; grief can support our process of letting go; regret can encourage us to take new decisions; loss can help us learn appreciation. Emotions are a compass if we can acknowledge, feel, listen and learn from them. Emotion is the energetic component of an insight, thus the rising of emotion and the growth of our intelligence is parallel.

Emotion is not really an issue for us; it is negative and painful aspect of emotion that is an issue. What we misunderstand however is that pain is a sign of imbalance, and is therefore an important pointer. Pain is an insight trying to deliver us into a new direction. Negative emotion can be useful to us if we do not dwell in it, but rather use it to direct us out of our pain and misunderstandings. Emotional pain can be thanked, as it is often our greatest drive to create life changes. If enough pain is present, we are rapidly motivated to learn our lessons and crossover necessary thresholds of learning.

Link Between Emotional Pain and Mental Negativity

Our thoughts and emotions are inter-connected; they each give rise to the other. We create thoughts according to the emotional state we are in, and emotions are created from the thoughts we hold. Our negativity has a source and reason. Negativity comes from unresolved pain. It is a condition of repression, unawareness of self, neglected self-inquiry, and lack of emotional resolve. If we do not heal our pains at the root, we cannot fully clear our negativity.

No one wants to be a negative person, we are painfully aware of it when we are. But there is something deeply compelling us from the inside to release our pain. Through our words, attitude and actions, we are releasing the toxic buildup inside. We are projecting our pain outward through our negativity. We are unconsciously trying to gain witnesses, attention, tenderness and/or healing through the showing of our pain.

Renouncing Pain and Negativity ~ Does it work?

How does one dissolve pain?
Is it enough to just renounce our negativity?
Is focusing on positivity enough not to waiver?

There are many strategies for transforming ourselves but not all strategies are equal. Each strategy is differentiated by its depth of intervention, holistic reach, effectiveness and ability to sustain long-term change.

Some schools of thought suggest that renouncing negativity is possible because negativity is fundamentally unreal. They suggest that since only the purity of our higher nature and our goodness is real, that our higher nature can supplant our unreal lower nature. This viewpoint, however, overlooks what the perceiver holds as real. Even though thoughts and emotions are transient and changing in nature, it does not mean they are insubstantial or unreal. They only hold a lower place within the spectrum of self-experience, particularly compared to abidance in one’s higher nature.

If the perceiver is convinced of the reality of his emotions and is thus trapped in their energetic hold, a higher perspective will not necessarily (1) counteract the gravity of his emotional world, or (2) shift him into a state of emotional understanding and resolve. Basically, reality is relative. What the perceiver holds as real is real; his belief creates his experience. If the perceiver changes his mind and decides indeed emotions are unreal, while it may loosen the grip of his charges, it still will not clear them.

To only sit in your meditative light and renounce disturbing emotion and thought is a form of repression and self-denial. One can abide in a heightened state and remain oblivious to one’s human flaws. One can grow as a soul, expand energetically, and yet remain stagnated in the development of one’s character. A troubled mind can still be touched by the connectivity and oneness of all life. One can still enjoy and love the awesome beauty of nature, feeling it is a part of one’s own self, and yet still be riddled with painful feelings of self-hatred. Such dichotomous inner states are common.

One can become expert at re-direction, but a mere loss of focus will direct one back towards the unpleasant complex web of internal knots. A temporary high from drugs or alcohol is comparable. It produces an altered state and offers short-term reprieve from one’s baseline state, however fundamental issues remained unresolved. Basically, renunciation does not really work, whereas facing oneself however does.

The light of our soul can partially but not completely heal the pain of the human heart. It is like shining bright sunlight on a person who has just lost their loved one. The sunlight is a beautiful grace and comfort but it cannot fully reach into the pain in one’s core. While the light of one’s soul is powerful, emotional pain still belongs to the realm of the human self. As such, the light of the soul can only penetrate the complexity of our psyche, emotional patterning and subconscious construct to a limited degree. The soul is more like a divine friend who supports the processing required at the base level of our human self. The human must still squarely meet his humanness.

For this reason, many meditators who try to transcend their emotional pain and psychological issues by just transcending them through a higher state of consciousness, tend to always fall back. Unfortunately, I have never observed an exception no matter how enlightened a being is. They are always divided between two realities, the exalted nature of their spiritual self and the wounding still present in their human self. Basically, awakening does not necessitate healing. Awakening only shines a light on one’s condition, amplifying one’s true state. While an awakened soul can positively impact the healing process, the healing process cannot fully rely on the soul to complete it. The soul offers peaceful refuge outside of the pain body, and a heightened perspective to see the entire matter in a wider context. Beyond this however, the human still has to undergo the necessary healing work.

~ Avalon