改變一切的回應
在生活中，有許多扇門向你開啟。生活並不意味著一帆風順，雖然當它是這樣的時候，生活是可愛的，就像是你希望永遠不會結束的夢幻茶歇。
當某件事情失平時，當在你與他人之間發生衝突時，讓這成為生命需要讓你去學習的唯一程度。這是一扇門，如果你進入的夠深，那真正的轉化空間就會對你敞開。總是有普通的回應，超凡的回應，和改變一切的回應。最後的回應是量子的跳躍。這是你在單一的覺醒中，跳過多年的衝突。當你夠深的進入內在，當你允許非常小的事件動搖你的核心時，這就會發生。
這是盡你所能的從一個情況學習的承諾。這不僅是說和做讓你可以走出惡水的事情。而是尋求比表面的解決方法更多的。這是超越自我對於真正改變的脆弱性，的自我防衛回應。
生命是為了淨化你的意識，幫助你提升，進入你的下一個演化層次。事情在外在出錯，來測試你的回應。你有通過你的測驗嗎？你以優雅、謙遜、誠實，以及同意無論如何都要學習愛，來生活嗎？不僅是一點的愛，而是宇宙性廣闊的愛。
你在詢問正確的問題嗎？什麼模式不斷的出現？為什麼我總是遇到同一類的人，或遇到同一種衝突？為什麼事情真的崩解了？為什麼這樣的損失或背叛是必要的？我是怎麼創造這個的？
外在的衝突是試著輕輕的打破內在的某個東西。如果在心的周圍有任何的保護殼，或在頭腦的周圍有固執的殼，衝突是在鼓勵破壞。毫無疑問，如果你允許的話，衝突會幫助你。它從來不是意外的，沒有原因而產生的。不要沒有提供完整的靈魂回應，就讓它從你的身邊溜走。
總是以鳥瞰的方式看見發生的事情，看你怎麼在每個情況下回應。彷彿神將障礙放在我們的面前，只是為了看看我們是在失敗中哭泣，還是優雅和輕易的超越它們。如果我們一個一個的超越，我們就會持續前進。當出現更大的障礙時，我們就要藉由超越它們，來持續增強我們的內在。直到我們遇到的障礙物過於巨大而無法超越，而這又為我們顯示了我們的內在限制。
例如說，你一直對某個人很慷慨，那個人有一天突然開始抱怨你很吝嗇，給的不夠。大多數的人都會生氣，不再給予這個人。這似乎是一個合理的回應。事實上，這是自我挺身而出的平均回應。更深的回應是檢查你在你與他人之間，所放置的評判和不接納的牆。你不再愛他們，因為他們的愛沒有大到足以匹配你的。似乎你的慈悲已達到了它的極限，不是嗎？停止給予確實可能是正確的，然而，你的工作是要打破你接納的極限。這是你的慷慨學習，去擁抱相反的能量，在你的慷慨中，抱著對方的無知。這將是你的學習。對於他們來說，很明顯的，他們需要睜開眼睛，你將支持撤離可能就足夠了。無論適當的外在回應是什麼，內在的回應應該始終保持在愛與慈悲的一面。
當另一個人在欺騙你時，你可能會要求他們有更大的誠實。如果他們再試一次，但仍不能給你足夠的誠信，那麼究竟你應該怎麼做呢？為這件事懊惱、批判，將他們推開並不是答案。也許去看到他們可能不知道如何更加的誠實；他們不知道自我探詢的深度；這它可能超越了他們之前所到達的。他們可能害怕失去，或者感覺受到威脅，因此需要自我保護。需要勇氣來成為真實的，和面對其後果。因此，如果一個人做不到，那麼更高的回應就是接納他們的恐懼。如果他們是在有意識的欺騙人，你不需要參與他們的遊戲，但你對於他們情況的包容，仍是你內在的工作。
理想是達到最高的回應。普通的回應可能是防衛性的自我解釋，或者批判和指責。超凡的回應是向內看，看你如何為了自己的學習，創造出這個情況。量子的回應是深刻的學習你的課題，以衷心的方式回應他們，而讓他們被深深的觸動，關係療癒，並提升進最高互利的光中。讓最小的事件就足以一次射穿你過去許多的學習門檻。讓最小的衝突提升你的面向，達到新的高度。加深許多內在的自我誠實，讓它融化他人的不真實。
量子的回應總是以自己開始，因此在給予你周圍的人建議之前，首先培養自己。當你清除自己的偏見，就是給予對方回應的時候了。不要只是給予普通的回應，集體意識的回應。遠遠超出經典的小我反應，防衛、攻擊、需要成為正確的，或證明對方是錯的。給予改變一切的回應。清楚的看見我們對於他人的批判，不過是指出我們自己慈悲的限制。透過以愛輕輕的引導他們，邀請他們進入更深的自我探詢空間，來幫助他人。如果他們願意的話，幫助他們看見自己。如果他們不願意去看見或改變的話，就讓他們那樣。最後，就是繼續成為自己的光，只是為了這本身的緣故。如果其他人跟隨的話，那就是他們的恩典。
~ Avalon
The Response that Changes Everything
In life, so many doors open to you. Life is not meant to be smooth, although it is lovely when that is the case. It is like a dreamy tea break that you hope doesn’t end.
When something goes off balance, when a conflict occurs between you and another, let that be the only extent life needs to go to for you to learn. It is a door, and if you enter deeply enough, then a space of transformation opens to you. There is always the ordinary response, the extraordinary response, and then the response that changes everything. The last response is a quantum leap. It is where you skip years of conflict in a single awakening. It happens when you go deep enough within, when you allow a very small event to shake you to the core.
It is the commitment to learn everything you can from a situation. It is not just saying and doing what you can to get out of troubled waters. It is seeking for more than a surface solution. It is going far beyond the response of an ego defending itself against the vulnerability of true change.
Life is here to purify your consciousness and help raise you into your next evolutionary level. Things go wrong on the outside to test your response. Are you passing your tests? Are you living with grace, humility, honesty, and your agreement to learn love no matter what? Not just a bit of love, but the universal expanse of it.
Are you asking the right questions? What pattern keeps showing up? Why do I keep meeting the same kind of person, or the same kind of conflict? Why have things truly fallen apart? Why was this loss or betrayal necessary? How did I create this?
Conflicts on the outside are trying to gently break something on the inside. If there is any shell of protection around the heart, or shell of stubbornness around the mind, the conflict is encouraging breakage. Make no mistake, conflict will help you if you allow it. It is never accidental, arising without reason. Do not let it pass you by without offering a full soul response.
Always seeing what happens from a bird’s eye view, watching how your self is responding in every situation. As though the Gods were placing obstacles in front of us, just to see if we cry in defeat or surmount them with grace and ease. If we surmount one after another, we only keep moving forward. As greater obstacles are presented, we are meant to keep increasing what we are on the inside by surmounting them. We continue doing so, until we meet with an obstacle too monumental to surmount, and that in turn shows us our inner limitation.
Let’s say you have been extremely generous to someone, who one day begins to complain that you are cheap and don’t give enough. Most people would get angry and stop giving to this person. It seems a reasonable response. Indeed it is the average response of an ego stepping forward. A deeper response examines the judgment and wall of non-acceptance you have placed between you and the other. You stop loving them, because their love is not big enough to match yours. It seems your compassion has met its limits, no? It may be right indeed to stop giving, however, your work is to break open the limits of your embrace. It is your generosity learning to embrace the opposite energy, holding the ignorance of the other inside your generosity. This would be the learning for you. For them, it is obvious that they need to open their eyes and a withdrawal of your support might be enough. No matter what the appropriate external response is, the inner response should always remain on the side of love and compassion.
When another is being dishonest with you, you may ask them for greater honesty. If they try again, but still cannot give you enough honesty, then what shall you do? Getting upset, judgmental and pushing them away is not the key. Perhaps, see that they may not know the pathway towards greater honesty; they do not know that depth of self- inquiry; it may be beyond where they have gone before. They may be fearful of loss, or maybe feeling threatened therefore needing to self protect. It takes courage to be true and face the consequences of that, so if one cannot, then the higher response is to embrace their fear. If they are being consciously deceitful, you do not need to engage in their game, but your embrace of their condition is still your inner work.
The idea is to reach for the highest response. The ordinary response may be defensive self-explanation, or judgment and blame. The extraordinary response is to look within and see how you created this circumstance for your own learning. The quantum response is to learn your lessons deeply and respond to the other in such a heartfelt way where they are so deeply touched that the relationship heals and is raised into the light of its highest mutual benefit. Let the smallest event be enough to catapult you past several thresholds of learning at once. Let the smallest conflict raise your aspects to reach new heights. Deepen so much inside self-honesty that it melts the untruth in others.
The quantum response always begins with yourself, so cultivate yourself foremost before advising those around you. When you have cleared your prejudices, and it is time to offer a response to the other, do not just offer an ordinary response, a collective consciousness response. Go far beyond the classical egoic reactions of defense, offense, the need to be right or to make the other wrong. Offer the response that changes everything. Seeing clearly, any judgment we hold over another, only points to the limits of our own compassion. Help the other by gently guiding them with love, inviting them into a deeper space of self-inquiry. Help them to see themselves if they are willing. If they are not willing to see or to change, let them be. Finally, simply continue to be a light unto yourself, just for the sake of it. If others follow, that is their grace.
~ Avalon