3-Day Written Testimonial
Jackson
3-Day Program · 中国 · 广州
长期以来,我都知道自己的情绪管理有些问题:我很在意别人对自己的评判,尤其是最亲家人的评判。一旦评判升级,我的愤怒也随之升级,对抗的言行开始出现。出于不愿攻击家人的心理,我往往尽力压抑,但一到临界点就失控,从语言到行动开始攻击别人,也攻击自己。攻击完后又极度自责,尤其看到被自己暴力所伤的家人时,整个人处于崩溃状态,像尼罗河泛滥一样有其规律,却束手无策。生命充满奇迹,在家人的带动下,我走进Avalon的课堂,一下进入到长期压抑、不愿发作的暴力情绪状态,像巨大炸药库被点燃。我喊出压抑在心中的愤怒,释放到体力耗尽,也完全进入悲伤、愤怒、绝望、委屈、悔恨等平时最不愿面对的情绪。戴上眼罩,伴着恰到好处、极富感染力的音乐,我与这些情绪合一,三天流了多年压住的泪,吼出压抑多年的愤怒。奇怪的是,负面情绪的发泄没有强化它们,反而让它们消融,突然升起对自己、对家人的心疼。
For a long time, I have known that I have some issues with emotional management. I tend to care deeply about others’ judgments of me, especially the judgments of my closest family members. If those judgments escalate, my anger escalates as well, leading to confrontational words and actions. Out of a desire not to attack my family, I often try to suppress this anger and aggression, but once I reach a breaking point, I lose control and begin to lash out, both at others and at myself. After these outbursts, I feel extreme guilt, especially when I see my family members hurt by my violence. I fall into a state of collapse, much like the flooding of the Nile River—there is a pattern to it, but I feel powerless to change it. Life is full of miracles. With my family’s encouragement, I entered Avalon’s classroom, where I immediately tapped into the violent emotions I had been suppressing and was unwilling to express. I was completely ignited, like a massive explosive warehouse set ablaze. I released the anger I had kept bottled up inside until I was physically exhausted, fully experiencing the emotions I usually avoid: sadness, anger, despair, grievance, and regret. With the eye mask on and the perfectly fitting, deeply moving music, I became fully integrated with these emotions. Over three days, I cried tears I had held for many years and shouted out the anger I had repressed for so long. Strangely, the release of these negative emotions did not intensify them; instead, they began to dissolve, and a sudden wave of compassion for myself and my family arose.