It is Not Difficult to Heal
Over the last twelve years of working with people of all different backgrounds, I discovered across the board that it is not difficult to heal. It is not difficult to overcome suffering, but one has to be clear about certain fundamentals.
The main premise is that one has to be willing to go through pain, and be willing to meet the most vulnerable, tender and soft parts of one’s being. One has to be willing to drop all masks, all self-protection, and all fear of knowing and of being intimate with oneself. It is about being willing to step into the most real space within you.
Many people step onto the spiritual path in order to elevate their own inner state – to feel better essentially. The main fallacy in understanding is however that one cannot feel better – truly – without first removing the obstacles in the way. In the simplest terms, there are two processes in the inner work: navigation out of pain and darkness, and expansion into joy and light. Taking the time to work through the delicate nature of our thoughts, emotions, feelings and perceptions in a sensitive, visceral and feeling way is what is called a process. This is a traditional approach to healing, however it does bring about sustaining changes.
There are alternatives whereby quantum approaches shifting one instantly from one state to another are possible, however when we do not consciously track all the subtle changes in our emotions, psyche and being, we tend to revert back to old patterns. It is like a person with poor earning and spending habits who suddenly wins the lottery. He has made a quantum shift into a new state but because he has missed the learning necessary to disentangle him from the causes of his predicament, he will likely become poor again. Because we incarnate for the purpose of learning, to go through our inner processes in an organic way often serves our evolutionary goals more than just taking quantum leaps into new states.
Over the years, I have had the grace to work with exceptional and self-actualized beings, who have used powerful modalities, transmissions of grace, energy and light to effect change in people. Indeed, I found many gifts within the integrity of each path. Still, no matter how powerful, quantum or miraculous an approach was – I found that unless one could dive into the rawness of one’s bare-naked core, that their perceived breakthroughs were rarely sustained. If one could however hold oneself in the softest embrace at the bottom of one’s feelings, at the bottom of oneself, then any storm would invariably pass.
It is so simple, but to fully and completely feel never fails. It happens like this because change is always happening, but when we focus on change, it accelerates. With any charge, the main premise is to go into it so deep, to penetrate every layer, and then some, and then some, and continue until there is just truly no further one can go. At this bottom, one just sits. At this bottom, one just embraces the whole of what is there. It could be a soup of sadness, grief, anger, sorrow, guilt, shame – whatever that is, the key is to just stay with that; as though that were your own child. This child just needs to be seen, embraced, recognized and empathized with. In doing this, the need of this metaphoric child would be met, and they could just run off and play as it were.
Our work with self is to just be present with the truth of what is really there; being able to really feel what you feel. It is true that when you focus on something, a problem, it amplifies. It is also true that when you focus on something, it amplifies and then dissolves. The principle being that when energy reaches a peak, it will begin to decline. Once it declines, you cannot stop that trajectory. You could experiment and try to stop it, but would find that after an energy has reached its peak point, it has lost its main charge. This unstoppable dissolution happens because once a charge has been exhausted at its peak, it becomes like a popped balloon deflating irreversibly. Once an energy has been fully acknowledged and deeply learned from, it will move towards its completion. It will lose its existential need to be there any more.
To note, it does not dissolve into nothing, but it does collapse it’s configuration as a blockage and then become released back into a field of pure undifferentiated energy, pure unrealized potential.
There are two main reasons that an energy shows up, it is there to help you both evolve on the level of energy and on the level of intelligence. Once you have imbibed the learning in your intelligence, as well as discharged the energy correctly in your body, then the life of the energy can complete. The only exception to the process of internal resolution is if there is still an external issue to contend with. If that is the case, then you may be karmically bound to resolve the situation with involved persons or factors before you are fully released from the lesson.
In any and most cases, the main key to healing and becoming free from any disturbing feelings is to go into them, in the most real and vulnerable way you can, and truly feel what is within you at the bottom of you. This is why we are here as human, we have come for the human experience, we have come to live, feel, breathe, and experience the absolute depth of ourselves through our external dance with life. Life in essence is happening within, and only by remaining sensitive, aware and fully in touch with our inner process do we continue to remain in touch with the essence of life.
Over many years of learning and experimentation, I found an approach that combines both a traditional and quantum way of working with people. It appears the fastest, deepest and most thorough way of processing our issues and creating long-lasting change. Here, one continues to go through the complete experiencing of their inner condition, however they can take quantum strides by only touching upon the key problem areas within their condition. As well, they can take quantum strides in terms of the time it takes to work through an issue, where instead of taking days and months, one can complete a process in minutes by just touching on key moments of learning along a relative timeline. It is like driving from one city to another. One does not need to pay attention to every sign, crossroad, landmark, or building along the way to get to their destination, it is enough to just watch for key turning points. It seems years of therapy is truly not necessary. Bringing our inner processes of learning to completion, by feeling them fully and touching on the key learning points along the way are able to bring about the extremely rapid and sustaining transformations.