在過去十二年,我跟來自不同背景的人工作,發現總體而言療癒並不困難。要克服痛苦或受苦並不困難,但一個人必須清楚一些基本的要素。
主要的前提是,一個人必須願意穿越它,去遇見自己的存在中,最溫柔、脆弱與柔軟的部分。一個人必須願意放掉所有的面具,所有的自我保護,及所有對於認識自己與親近自己的恐懼。這是關於願意踏進你內在最真實的空間。
大部分的人踏上靈性道路是為了提升自己內在的狀態,基本上是為了有更好的感覺。這見解最主要的謬誤在於,除非一個人能先移除道路上的障礙,他無法真正有更好的感覺。以最簡單的說法來解釋,內在工作有兩個部分:走出痛苦和黑暗,以及擴展進入喜悅和光。運用時間,以敏感、內在和感覺的方式,在我們的思想、情緒、感覺和認知的微妙性質上進行,就是所謂的過程。這是傳統的療癒方法,然而它確實會帶來持續的轉化。
有個替代的方法,以量子的方式將一個人立即從一種狀態,轉變為另一種狀態是可能的。然而,當我們沒有有意識的追蹤我們的情緒、心靈和存在中所有細微的變化時,我們往往會恢復舊有的模式。就像有不好的賺錢習慣和消費習慣的人突然中了彩票。他進行了量子轉變,進入新的狀態中。但因為他錯過了解開他困境的根源所必要的學習,他有可能再次變窮。因為我們是為了學習的目的而誕生的,以自然的方式經歷我們內在的過程,通常有助於我們的演化目標,勝過僅是採取量子的跳躍,來進入新的狀態。
多年來,我獲得恩典與獨特和自我實現的人工作,他們使用強大的方式,傳遞恩典、能量和光,在人們內在帶來改變。我確實發現在每條道路的完整性中的許多禮物。然而,無論一個方式有多麼強大,如何量子躍昇或充滿奇蹟─我發現到,除非一個人能夠潛入自己赤裸的核心,他們所感知到的突破很難維持。如果一個人可以在自己最深的感覺,自己的最深處,的最柔軟的擁抱中,支持自己,那任何的風暴終究會轉移過。
這很簡單,但全然且完整的去感受永遠不會失敗。它這樣發生,是因為雖然改變總是在發生,但當我們專注於改變時,它就會加速。對於任何的情緒負荷,主要的前提是,深深的進入它,刺穿它的每一層,再更深一些,再更多一些,一直持續直到你真的無法再前進為止。在這最深處中,你就是坐在那裡。在這最深處中,你就是擁抱所有在那裡的。可能是一碗悲傷、難過、憤怒、憂愁、罪惡感與羞恥的湯,無論那是什麼,關鍵是與它待在一起,彷彿那是你的小孩。這個小孩只是需要被看見,被擁抱,被認出和被同理。這麼做之後,這隱喻的小孩的需求就會得到滿足,他們就會如過去一樣開開心心的跑出去玩耍。
我們對於自我的工作,就是與在那裡的事實待在一起;能夠真正感受到你所感受的。確實當你專注於某個事物、一個問題時,它就會增強。也確實當你專注於某個事物,它就會增強,然後化解。原則是,當一個能量到達頂點時,就會開始下降。一旦它下降了,你就無法改變它的軌跡。你可以實驗,並試著阻止它,但會發現在能量達到頂點之後,就會失去它主要的衝力。
這無法停止的化解的發生,是因為一旦情緒負荷被排出到了它的極點,就會像氣球無法逆轉的洩氣。當能量被充分認出,並深深的從中學習,就會朝向完成,失去它再存在的需要。值得注意的是,這能量並不會消失無蹤,但它阻塞物的型態會瓦解,回到純淨無明顯特徵的能量之中,回到純淨未實現的潛能之中。
能量的出現有兩個主要的理由,幫助你在能量的層面與心智的層面演化。一旦你在心智上學習到了,也正確的釋放掉身體中的能量,那能量的生命就完成了。內在處理過程唯一的例外是,如果仍然有外在問題在鬥爭。如果是這樣的情況,那在你完全離開課題之前,你可能在業力上被束縛,必須與相關的人或因素去解決情況。
在大部分的情況中,療癒與從不安的感覺解脫,最主要的關鍵是深入這些感受。以你能夠做到的最真實且脆弱的方式,真正的去感受在你內在最深層的。這就是為什麼我們生而為人,我們為了人類的經驗來到這裡,我們來生活、感受、呼吸,和透過與生命的外在舞蹈,來經驗自己的絕對深度。生命本質上是在內在發生的,唯有透過保持敏感、覺知且全然的接觸我們的內在過程,我們才能持續保持與生命的本質接觸。
經過多年來的學習和實驗,我找到了結合了傳統和量子式的方法來與人們工作。這看起來是處理我們的問題和創造持久的改變,最快速、最深刻和最徹底的方法。在這裡,一個人持續完整的經驗他們內在的情況,但他們可以透過僅碰觸他們的情況中關鍵的問題區域,採取量子的跨越。同時,他們也可以依據穿越問題所需要的時間來進行量子的跨越,而不需要幾天或幾個月。一個人可以藉由沿著相對的時間表,僅接觸學習的關鍵時刻,在幾分鐘內完成一個課題的過程。這就像開車從一個城市到另一個城市,一個人並不需要注意一路上的每個號誌、十字路口、地標或建築,才能到達目的地,只要看到關鍵的轉折點就足夠了。似乎多年的療癒確實是沒有必要的。要完成內在的學習過程,藉由充分感受它們,並接觸一路上的關鍵學習點,就能夠帶來非常迅速和持續性的轉變。
~ Avalon
Over the last twelve years of working with people of all different backgrounds, I discovered across the board that it is not difficult to heal. It is not difficult to overcome suffering, but one has to be clear about certain fundamentals.
The main premise is that one has to be willing to go through pain, and be willing to meet the most vulnerable, tender and soft parts of one’s being. One has to be willing to drop all masks, all self-protection, and all fear of knowing and of being intimate with oneself. It is about being willing to step into the most real space within you.
Many people step onto the spiritual path in order to elevate their own inner state – to feel better essentially. The main fallacy in understanding is however that one cannot feel better – truly – without first removing the obstacles in the way. In the simplest terms, there are two processes in the inner work: navigation out of pain and darkness, and expansion into joy and light. Taking the time to work through the delicate nature of our thoughts, emotions, feelings and perceptions in a sensitive, visceral and feeling way is what is called a process. This is a traditional approach to healing, however it does bring about sustaining changes.
There are alternatives whereby quantum approaches shifting one instantly from one state to another are possible, however when we do not consciously track all the subtle changes in our emotions, psyche and being, we tend to revert back to old patterns. It is like a person with poor earning and spending habits who suddenly wins the lottery. He has made a quantum shift into a new state but because he has missed the learning necessary to disentangle him from the causes of his predicament, he will likely become poor again. Because we incarnate for the purpose of learning, to go through our inner processes in an organic way often serves our evolutionary goals more than just taking quantum leaps into new states.
Over the years, I have had the grace to work with exceptional and self-actualized beings, who have used powerful modalities, transmissions of grace, energy and light to effect change in people. Indeed, I found many gifts within the integrity of each path. Still, no matter how powerful, quantum or miraculous an approach was – I found that unless one could dive into the rawness of one’s bare-naked core, that their perceived breakthroughs were rarely sustained. If one could however hold oneself in the softest embrace at the bottom of one’s feelings, at the bottom of oneself, then any storm would invariably pass.
It is so simple, but to fully and completely feel never fails. It happens like this because change is always happening, but when we focus on change, it accelerates. With any charge, the main premise is to go into it so deep, to penetrate every layer, and then some, and then some, and continue until there is just truly no further one can go. At this bottom, one just sits. At this bottom, one just embraces the whole of what is there. It could be a soup of sadness, grief, anger, sorrow, guilt, shame – whatever that is, the key is to just stay with that; as though that were your own child. This child just needs to be seen, embraced, recognized and empathized with. In doing this, the need of this metaphoric child would be met, and they could just run off and play as it were.
Our work with self is to just be present with the truth of what is really there; being able to really feel what you feel. It is true that when you focus on something, a problem, it amplifies. It is also true that when you focus on something, it amplifies and then dissolves. The principle being that when energy reaches a peak, it will begin to decline. Once it declines, you cannot stop that trajectory. You could experiment and try to stop it, but would find that after an energy has reached its peak point, it has lost its main charge. This unstoppable dissolution happens because once a charge has been exhausted at its peak, it becomes like a popped balloon deflating irreversibly. Once an energy has been fully acknowledged and deeply learned from, it will move towards its completion. It will lose its existential need to be there any more.
To note, it does not dissolve into nothing, but it does collapse it’s configuration as a blockage and then become released back into a field of pure undifferentiated energy, pure unrealized potential.
There are two main reasons that an energy shows up, it is there to help you both evolve on the level of energy and on the level of intelligence. Once you have imbibed the learning in your intelligence, as well as discharged the energy correctly in your body, then the life of the energy can complete. The only exception to the process of internal resolution is if there is still an external issue to contend with. If that is the case, then you may be karmically bound to resolve the situation with involved persons or factors before you are fully released from the lesson.
In any and most cases, the main key to healing and becoming free from any disturbing feelings is to go into them, in the most real and vulnerable way you can, and truly feel what is within you at the bottom of you. This is why we are here as human, we have come for the human experience, we have come to live, feel, breathe, and experience the absolute depth of ourselves through our external dance with life. Life in essence is happening within, and only by remaining sensitive, aware and fully in touch with our inner process do we continue to remain in touch with the essence of life.
Over many years of learning and experimentation, I found an approach that combines both a traditional and quantum way of working with people. It appears the fastest, deepest and most thorough way of processing our issues and creating long-lasting change. Here, one continues to go through the complete experiencing of their inner condition, however they can take quantum strides by only touching upon the key problem areas within their condition. As well, they can take quantum strides in terms of the time it takes to work through an issue, where instead of taking days and months, one can complete a process in minutes by just touching on key moments of learning along a relative timeline. It is like driving from one city to another. One does not need to pay attention to every sign, crossroad, landmark, or building along the way to get to their destination, it is enough to just watch for key turning points. It seems years of therapy is truly not necessary. Bringing our inner processes of learning to completion, by feeling them fully and touching on the key learning points along the way are able to bring about the extremely rapid and sustaining transformations.
~ Avalon