The Path to Self Love
Not all succumb so easily to the lower aspects of human nature. We all draw from the same well of human qualities, and yet some exhibit far more light than others, far more joy than others. You have seen those that carry a high vibration, living in a heightened state of love, peace and happiness, much more of the time. You have also seen those that abide in a lower vibration, in continuous struggle, pain and suffering, much more of the time. Why do some tend to draw from a higher vibration, rather than a lower one, or vice versa? Don’t the downtrodden just need to make a choice to live from their higher selves, and that would be enough to live in the light? To answer this, we need a more acute self- understanding…
How do those that live in their light get there? Those that live in their light, do so, not because they have cut away all their ugly bits, dark bits, weak and negative bits. If they are sincerely living in their light, then they have found the path to full self-acceptance, and full self-love. They have abandoned the antics of the insatiable mind, the mind that persuades you that to be your best self, you must push down the bad, and build up the good. Those who live in the light, realize it is not about positioning yourself on one end of your polarity, while keeping distance from the other polarity within you. It is instead to realize the nature of inner freedom. Genuine inner freedom is to roam anywhere within your inner terrain and be at peace with all of it. It is to see your anger, your pain, your hurt, your rage, your guilt, your shame and all such afflictions we judge as negative ~ and simply give them the love and acceptance they are worthy of. In doing so, we begin the path towards self-embrace and inner wholeness. How to do this?
You face all this within you that you resist. You face it with the intent to heal yourself, and then shine the light of your awareness onto all you resist, dislike, or cannot accept and love within yourself. If you do this with a single pointed focus, and invite in the light of divine grace to help you, you will melt the ice around all the unloved parts of yourself. You may even be able to see the cracks and divisions in your system dissolve, as you return to a state of oneness within yourself.
In this process, you realize all parts of you make up your human nature, and that no one is born exempt of these characteristics. Your spiritual work is to embrace all that seems unworthy, but in reality, is entirely worthy ~ simply by virtue of it all being a part of your human self. Become a mother to your own self, as though each part of your self that is conflicted, broken, lost, hurt, and suffering is your own child. Embrace it all, for it is all you.
When you can embrace all that you are, you would transcend your lower nature, and begin to live in your higher nature. Your lower nature would no longer struggle to get your attention and act out in unconscious destructive ways, because finally you have given it the attention, care and acceptance needed. The wounded parts of yourself are like appeased children that with your embrace become peaceful again. When you pull back all the pieces of yourself back into a state of wholeness, you will feel far more full, far less fragmented, far more yourself than ever before. Otherwise, you are divided from too parts of yourself, and in this state of internal separation, how can you be happy?
You have been given a human nature, you have only to accept it. It is not about improving yourself, it is about ‘improving’ your perception of yourself; that is, your relationship to yourself. It is about discovering yourself, and deciding what you will do with that discovery. Either you go on rejecting, judging, separating, dividing yourself from all that is ugly, or you realize that this is all the self, this is all a part of being human. And then you relax.
It neither means to indulge your negativity, your selfishness and wrath, and project it into the world because you are just ‘being yourself’ or ‘acting human.’ No, that is an act of insensitivity and unconsciousness. These are messages to your inner being for how to live in peaceful love and communion with your own inner self. If you can bridge all your disconnections, heal all your inner conflicts, then naturally, your vibration would raise and your way of expression in the world would be higher, more loving and compassionate.
Until then, one must take care not to hurt others in the world, and turn within to heal the wounded and disowned parts of oneself, bringing them back into inner wholeness again. You cannot change your human fragilities and vulnerabilities, but you can accept them. You are fundamentally you, what else? All you can do is be yourself, as deeply as possible. Your main spiritual work is to love yourself as you are. If you do, all aspects of your life would in shift in turn. Invite grace to support you, in helping you in fully realizing each step back towards genuine self-love.
Meditate On These Insights on Wholeness and Self-Love:
1. We have become fragmented because we have disowned many aspects of ourselves.
2. Realize The Path is to return to a state of inner wholeness, and reclaim our lost parts.
3. The spiritual path is about being what you are, not becoming what you are.
4. See the vast spectrum of your human nature, and that each is endowed with it.
5. See your lower nature and embrace it.
6. See all our human attributes are impersonal, they belong to the collective personality.
7. Realize what we judge, resist or divide ourselves from becomes stronger.
8. Through loving each part of yourself, you would transcend your lower nature.
9. Be at peace with entire inner self, embrace all of you and return to self-love.