There are certain common misunderstandings on the path. Here is one such line of thought: the common belief is that we are all special, individual and unique. Looking around it seems so, and it in a certain way it is true ~ on the surface, our expressions, our behaviors, our language, our ways, give the appearance that we are all different, but within ourselves, deep down, are we so different?
We believe our uniqueness sets us apart, that our distinct qualities belong to us. We possess our personality traits unconsciously. We believe our traits are unique to who we are. But, is it so? From a higher perspective, our qualities are actually all impersonal. They belong to the human race, they characterize our collective human personality. What does that mean? It means that we all belong to a collective consciousness that holds every human trait that ever was, and it is from this well that we each derive our individual qualities. Depending on how aware we are, depending on whether we are vibrating in our lower nature or higher nature, depends on which qualities we draw from in this collective well of human attributes.
Since the beginning of humanity, each person has always had access to this well, and most of us early on in our lives, in our carefree uncensored adolescent or youthful forms have drawn from most, if not all areas of this well. Through crossing boundaries and getting pushed back, through getting hurt, through getting conditioned, through experience, through growth and learning, we have discovered that acting from our higher natures helps us to live in harmony with others in this world. However, we are in a perpetual state of conflict, because our unawareness causes our ego and mind to dominate us. In such a state, we fall prey to our lower natures easily. We know the pain of our lower natures, we struggle against our shadows, we try to repress what is dark and ugly inside us, and yet we find, our resistance actually strengthens our lower nature. We are in conflict much of the time within our own selves; even we feel at war with ourselves sometimes. This is the plight of the human when the human fails to see and accept its conflicting aspects.
You come from the light of God. You are eternal, infinite and divine indeed. But coming here, you are endowed with a human nature of which is dynamic and expansive in its spectrum of qualities. It is a curious make-up, the human makeup, and much of it is filled with light, but much of it is also filled with shadows. Our inner experience of the world is complex and multi-layered. We are multi-dimensional and we also have a matrix of differing personalities, emotions, thoughts, patterns and realities all co- existing in us at the same time. We are often in conflict with ourselves because of the obvious duality that exists within ourselves. The more we deny this dual nature of ours, the more we suffer at the hands of it, always in a state divided from our own selves. Here are some of the dualistic realities we all carry:
You are giving, but you are also selfish. You are loving, but you are also loathing. You are gracious, but you are also petty. You are sensitive, but you are also insensitive. You are forgiving, but you also hold your grudges. You congratulate others, but you are also jealous. You are attention giving, but you are also neglectful. You are grateful, but you also take things for granted. You are humble, but you are also arrogant. You are caring of others, but you are also self-serving. You are beautiful, but you are also ugly. You are honest, but you also lie. You can be transparent, but you wear masks. You are straightforward, but you are also manipulative. You experience freedom, but you also control. You are joyful, but you are also angry. You are hopeful, but you are fearful. You are kind, but you are also mean. You are proud, but you also hold shame. You are righteous, but you are also guilty. These are some of your inner conflicts. You also have outer conflicts: You show gratitude, but inside you complain. You show respect, but are afraid to speak your thoughts. You pretend to be happy when you are sad; fine when you are hurt. You tolerate situations and people but are dissatisfied. You smile but hide your resentments. You act loving, but bad thoughts cross your mind.
Who has not experienced all these traits inside their own selves? Who has not experienced all these feelings inside their own selves? No one needs to explain to you what any one of these feelings or experiences are like, because you have tasted them, lived them, felt them all before. Is this experience not shared by everyone you know? Our masks are thick; few let on what is going on underneath, but can you not sense it? If not, at least you can look within yourself and see if both this higher and lower reality exist in you. Of course, we can admit the good stuff. But we tend to deny, hide or refrain from admitting the bad stuff. Perhaps you have seen these contents before, and in disdain tried to rapidly change what you were. Perhaps you tried to come from a higher place, and tried to push down your lower tendencies. Perhaps you succeeded, but perhaps the same reality continued to rear its head only to grow stronger with each act of denial.
For those that can admit they hold all those qualities, they are free. They are free from needing to resist, deny or fight against what they are. They are free from the conflicts and confrontations that arise out of the refusal to admit these inner truths. Life is ever trying to show you that: you are the all, and that there is nothing that is not you. Each time you try to divide yourself from the whole, by saying, “I am not this, I am not that” ~ life has a duty to wake you up and show you otherwise. Life holds the agenda of bringing you back into a state of oneness, and would therefore deliver its first teachings to you, about the nature of your very self. Life would use a myriad of ways to confront you with experiences whereby you would discover, that what you judge in the other, what you resist in the other, what you reject in the other, what you loathe and cannot accept in the other, is only all that you cannot face, admit and embrace in yourself. Your outer conflicts with others are only ever conflicts with your own self. There is nothing that is not you. Either embrace others to embrace self, or embrace self and thereby embrace others. As unique as we are on the surface, our human nature is the same. The only thing that really sets us apart is our ability to hold our lower nature in such embrace, that we naturally come from our highest self.